Walkaway through the Land of Romans and Renaissance!

A long awaited trip in my Wish list was sewn up when my family decided for a Trip to the Land of Renaissance and the Romans to unleash the historical greenwood of the world. Belonging to the Genre of History addicts, there could have been no better place than Italy to relive the times of Ancient Romans, the Paleolithic age and the civilization on the Banks of River Tiber. So we swayed our way from Delhi to the Capital city of Italy, one of the best cities on the planet, Rome. We had our way via Dubai and it was a total journey of 11.5 hours with 6 hours hault in Dubai.

Usually after tucking over a journey so long, humans tend to discern a fatigue nature and also some Jet lag due to the major time difference. But to our surprise, Rome had a different bombshell for us! The moment we stepped out of the airport, we were saluted with a pleasant weather and an amazing Landscape amidst the suburbs. Viewing the scenic astonishment and comparing the roads and driving in Rome with India, we gradually entered the main city with some astounding architectures build with Traventine stones and amazing techniques to keep the city clean and protect the greenery. On reaching the hotel, we decided to give up resting and start exploring the city from the very first day itself. That night we had an itenary of a Roman exhibition which we had booked earlier. But prior to that we had a time span of 6 hours and had to splurge that wisely! So we decided to take a stroll down the glamorous lanes and work on some Vlogs with my History knowledge of the Romans. (For my video blogs, you can contact me on dasshivarjun.iipm@gmail.com). Apprehending the alluring beauty of the city, we decided to board a metro to Roma Termini which was minutes from our hotel as a pedestrian. We took a ride to the Colossal Metro station which glorified us with the stunning view of the Colosseum, which was a part of our Itenary the next day. So we haulted for some photographs and kept of strolling across the lanes. We then boarded a cab for the location where the Roman exhibition was held. With the exhibition of Gladiator wars, Roman culture of Wine, dance and food with some thrilling stunts and detailing, the night came to an end with us back to our hotels. With some good hamburgers and a can of beer, we were off to sleep and get ready for the next day.

There we go with the 2nd day in our Itenary. This was a City tour which included the Historic Colosseum and the Roman Forum. So with some delicious Roman breakfast, we were all set to explore the breathtaking historic monuments and get to know more about their history. We walked our way to a spot where we came across our tourist guide who guided us towards the Colosseum. They picturesque Amphitheater built by the Flavians had so much to explore and to gather knowledge about, that an entire day would not suffice the purpose but we had to settle with few hours. Ranging from the trials by Byzantines and other tribes to capture the amphitheater, to the Roman gatherings inside with the Gladiator fights and shows and then we moved on to the Roman Forum which is also at a walking distance from Colosseum. The Forum had a plethora of Caesarian monuments including Churches, Temples and Graveyards and some conspiracy theories with no proof to be true. With a pool of knowledge and brushing up Roman history, it was time to get back to the hotel and take some rest before we take a night tour to Rome. The night tour included mostly some monuments and artifacts built by Augustus and Marcus and the famous Trevi fountain built by Panini in 1762 to make up for the water scarcity at that time and also to welcome Augustus. That bought an end to a fabulous day and we were back to our hotel.

The third day itenary was of the great Vatican City. The smallest country in the world had a surfeit of Roman art and culture. With the residence of Pope and the astonishing Sistine Chapel built in the name of Pope Sixtus IV, it provides you a complete picture of the talent which Roman painters had which modern day painters still lack in terms of creativity and adolescence even after technological advancements. St. Peters Basilica is also one of the tourist spot which happens to be the largest Basilica in the world.



Post traversing the astounding city of Rome, we boarded the train from Roma Termini and headed towards the land of Renaissance, Florence. After covering a distance of 1.5 hours, we reached the Florentina station. With all traventine architecture, Florence gave us a breathtaking view of its brick and stone lanes with all modern and luxury brand showrooms and shops! But the best moment was during the evening, when we commenced exploring the historical relevance of the city which is considered to be the land of Renaissance. Post exploring the Dante Alighieri Museum, Statue of David by Michelangelo, the first Renaissance sculpture by Rocco, famous painting by Donatello, Botticelli and the Medici family which also had 2 Popes in their name, we proceeded towards the Akademia. Unfortunately, due to a long queue at the Akademia, we could not move on to explore more other than the replica of the Statue of David also built by Michelangelo. Original statue was portrayed their earlier until it was shifted to Academia for political reasons. Had some delicious Italian cuisine and wine post that and were back to our hotel for some sound sleep.

The next day we had to head towards Pisa to witness the historic 14th Century Leaning Tower of Pisa and a Cathedral, Cattedrale de Pisa. It was a bus ride for 1 hour from Florence to Pisa. On reaching the location, we found out an open market filled with different handicrafts, local products and restaurants. Most of them were run by Bangladeshi immigrants and that led our way towards the Historic monuments in Pisa. The tourist attraction spot in Pisa wont concede an area of more then 5 acres. The actual point of attraction was the Leaning Tower of Pisa built by Bonanno, another Renaissance painter and the Cathedral dedicated to the assumption of Virgin Mary. Theory of US army planning to attack the Tower for doubting German army to keep an eye on them and also experiment by Galileo Galilei of object descent also exists but with no solid proof or witness to back them up. Another interesting fact of the building being tilted in Pisa is because of the weak soil on one part. It just doesn't make the Tower of Pisa lean but also the Cathedral and the trees lean. We returned to Florence after that and the bus journey was a marvelous one with green patches of the suburbs on both side accompanied by slight rain late in the evening.

The next day we departed for Venice, again a train journey from Florence. It was a journey of 1 hour and we departed to a city which has no mode of transportation apart from water boats as the city is engulfed within canals. Venice is a city that no one can delete ever from their memory once anyone steps in. The ecstatic water boat ride and the architecture of Churches and buildings are the real eye catchers that enthrall your senses. On reaching the location of the hotel on a boat, we were all engaged in feeding the Pigeons who tends to place their claws on your hands and eat the food provided. Strolling across the lanes between canals and taking the Gondola ride covering the entire city, we ended that day with some delicious Pizza and Beer. The next day, we took a Water bus and traveled across 3 nearby islands, Murano, Burano, Torricelli. With some factories and local markets, these islands were peaceful, calm and had some awe-inspiring views. That engulfed the entire day until evening and then we were back to our hotel.

The next day was en-route Lake Como which was again a train journey of 2 hours. Lake Como had a vivid view of low altitude mountain and the Lake view from the hotel balcony was stupendous. Lake Como has always been known for a wedding destination inside Ships and a very happening place in Italy. That is normally a vacation destination for Italians and a weekend transit for some cool experience. With some delicious Lobster Shrimp and wine, we took a stroll on the lake side, went to a Super Mart to purchase some local delicacies and sat at the balcony until midnight to unleash the spectacle hardly found anywhere. The next day was like a dooms day when we had to depart for India from Milan airport.

A gazing experience it was and i could rather name it to be my best experience ever in life. Italy is actually a dream come true destination and an experience that would never fade away. I am thankful to be the lucky person to have explored the wonderful city and unleash its history even more wide. I cant thank Italy enough but promise to land on their soil again. Grazie Italia, Pronto!!!

Chakrata- The hidden treasure!

Belonging to the genealogy of excursion lovers, its a Mandate for travel and gathering experiences for souls like us to pack our bags as the clock strikes the slate of being free from our daily work. Following the plethora, this year too during the onset of summers, we decided to relieve ourselves from the scorching heat across North India and sway across our path to Nirvana among the valleys and hillocks. Breaking the stereotyping, we ended up to arriving at a hidden treasure which was completely contrasting to the other destinations we have been to earlier!

Commencing from Gurugram, we have undulated our way through some cities in UP, crossing Vikas Nagar, Kalsi and excavating our route to an isolation, the marvelous Chakrata! On reaching the destination, we hardly had any idea that the first impression would rather not be the last impression of this place. On reaching Chakrata, we were welcomed with narrow hill roads and utmost silence that can be expected. We opted to hault in an Eco friendly lodge where we put up in tents made of fabric.

On stepping into our tents we were were miles away from being gleeful. Not only because the ambiance didn't provide us the mindset of having a nice vacation but also due to some glitches within our group due to some external factor. Sooner did we realize after a great sleep that it was not the ambiance but our glitches that didn't accord a good start to the trip! It gave us an illumination to realize that we have got wrong tendencies to blame for bad experiences without realizing the fault in us. Post that hardly did we know that a pool of experiences were about to escort us till the end.

So the trip starts... Not when we reached the destination, but when we woke up from a good sleep late in the afternoon. There we go with the classification of 2 days:-

Day 1:- (Unwanted beginning but a great end)

It all started with a mutual decision by 5 of us to stay withing the premises of the Lodge that evening to relieve ourselves from the long journey and to avail the utmost scope of natures beauty and the cool weather (which was prevalent only post evening). The Lodge had a lot to provide us with its ethnic location and the divine atmosphere pleasant for all age groups and demographics. The tents were paralleled by a common lane across the valleys that leads to trekking spots across the steeps.

All of us sitting across the lane with our gossips and beverages on, the view of the rocky mountains and the layer of canyons was the delight that our senses were craving for! Along with the view, ambiance and the freshness in the atmosphere which is predominant in the hills, what actually added the cherry on the cake was the understanding and bonding we had as a group. I always believe that only a good view and ambiance doesn't create memories but the bondage leaves no stones unturned to a happy soul! All engulfed into gossips, food, beverages and the atmosphere beauty, the lodge had an arrangement of Bonfire which was few steps up from our tents. Again not to forget, the Lodge itself was a trekking point and to reach at any point withing the premises of the lodge, slight trekking has to be done and thats the real gratification for all.

The Bonfire welcomed us with a comfortable feat along with interaction with few other hoteliers who were all boosted up like us to make it an evening worth recalling! Followed by music and dance, we were all set to come down to the lane across our tents where 6 of us would again commence our talks and enjoy with our group. Sooner we found that we had a fan from the Bonfire group who did follow us to our tents and started talking about a lot of matters. I wont say it was irritating but we wanted to spend time with our group so had to indirectly ask him in a polite manner to excuse us :p Post that we did bring an end to the night with some delicious food for dinner and our never ending gossip and fun.

Day 2:- (When the betterment fusions up)

After a mesmerizing day 1 with all ups and downs, we were all set in the morning for breakfast and then leave for a tourist attraction spot in Chakrata, the Tiger Fall. All set and ready, we departed at 11 a.m. and it was a journey of 1.5 hours from the lodge to the destination. Accompanied by the hill views and the spiral hilly roads, we did hit an ecstatic momentum on the go! Some narrow hilly roads were the fierce moments some of us had as the narrow lanes were something not very common with the other hill stations in North India.

Along with the hilly view, we also earned a beautiful spectacle of Terrace farmings everywhere and trifle streams engulfed with their own flow to infinity. Tiger Fall did surprise us with its pace and the flow beauty and we could not resist ourselves from taking a shower. As we drenched ourselves in, we were shivered by the level of cold it had. But it was absolute fun after few minutes as we get adjusted to the temperature. We did take a good shower there for few minutes but the pebbles under water were too sharp to bruise our legs and we had to advance towards the banks. Even after all, the experience was up to another level and could hardly be explained. We willed to have our lunch at the spot but it didn't bestow the food we require so had to travel back to Chakrata market to find a suitable place to fill our stomachs. Then trekking a kilometer more we reached the other phase of the market where Shopaholics tried their best to find objects to purchase but the husbands were lucky :p

It was a distance of an hour from Chakrata Market to Viratkhai where our lodge was. Again we had a gala time across the lane of our tents and the awe inspiring bonfire. With the only dissimilarity of we being the only group that evening in the lodge. With some soothing music and a good chat session with the lodge staff, we were back to our tents and again had a gala time with music, leg pulling sessions and some ghastly talks to share some shit out!!!

Day 3:- (The walk to remember):-

So now was the day to return but it seemed that Chakrata was too upset to let us go. So they cried wielding rain in cats and dogs with too bad a weather. Had there not been a compulsion to return, we would have take sojourn for another day. With the bad weather accompanying us, we all departed after a good breakfast. The journey was thrilling with heavy rains with the hilly roads. The rain started sedating and we were 10 kilometers away from Vikas Nagar which is a plain. All of a sudden there was a jerk from our Innova car with the sound of a flat tyre. One of the sharp pebbles had its pin under the wheels and we confronted a puncture. Unfortunately the stepney was not air packed too and was not capable enough to carry us for 10 kilometers until we find a puncture shop in the plains. There was a time of distress again as the rain too gathered back its momentum.

Once again we had a turn and the distress was soon turned into glee when we found out some help with the tyre. The one driving had to go down to Vikasnagar with a localite who fortunately passed our car in that isolated place and get the tyre inflated. With no other alternative, we had to settle by that. But what would we do with that 1 hour time? We decided to walk as much as we can until we find a lift until the plains. Now that's what i would call a walk to remember. The rain has ceased by then and we got a more clear environment to walk across. As it wasn't an elevation but had to descend, we were quite comfortable. Strolling down the valley we had commenced boosting each other up. We started mocking at our luck while coming and going and the ladies were engulfed in photography at every step. Not that uncommon right??? From the steep valleys we reached a point with all gold leaves spread across giving one of us a remembrance of the Hindi movie 'Mohabattein". Sooner did she realize that her hero was with her only. No no, not SRK but her husband :p We started discussing on how to survive in such a place where we were struck with no conveyance. We then had more respect for Bear Grylls then!!!

With un-ending laughter, talks, photos, walk we found an SUV carrying 2 aged women. It was 4-5 kilometers more and we were dropped to Vikas Nagar. That 4 kilometer drive with an amazing localite with a modest approach was something more beguiling. Another realization of getting rid of distress is to mock at such situations and find a solution and relieve yourself instead of worrying too much. By the time we had our lunch there, our car was back and then the rest till Gurugram was again filled with laughter, gossips, and some sound sleep.

Sometimes heading towards some destination where its not at all easy to avail provisions but walk few extra miles or climb extra slopes to get your necessities is also an experience. We can live the life of people at stone age too sometimes and brace ourselves at rest. We learn how to find one good matter among all the bad ones. All destination has its own beauty and their own beast. With people of common mindset and fun loving souls, we find the best out of worst.

So we bid a goodbye to our trip and bestowing a heavenly farewell, we now look forward to another astonishing destination with the best people in life. Thank you to Rahul bhai, Adi, Rashmi bhabi, Mini bhabi and the little angel Anya! Love you all :)

Statue of Unity: A waste of Money or Valued Possession?

A lot of political, social and phenomenal debates circulating across the country revolving around the justification to build the Statue of Unity in the state of Gujarat. Letting a whole lot of bush to settle down for a moment, lets first have a look at the ideological prospect to this debate. I have recently been on a vacation to the Land of Renaissance and the Roman empire. With a pack full of learning and encounters, something i can hysterically mention to similarise with the base of this debate. Even after hosting itself as a land of Sculpture and Colossal, Italy has never stopped the relay of building them even at the present. They dont leverage the thought of expenses (also because they dont lack funds and capitals) at the cost of feeding poor people (also because they hardly have any). But keeping all the rationality aside, this sets a perfect example of maintaining a balance between uplifting the rural population and working simultaneously on development and tourism.

The whole set of conventional debate rotates primarily on the need to erect up the statue instead of feeding the poor and meeting expense of the Rural regions. Before we get deep into the intellectual part of it, lets reorganize some facts regarding the Statue of Unity. 3000 workers were deployed, 250 engineers were put to action and Brain storming. Its the tallest statue in the world with an elevation of 182 meters. Now getting back to the base of this debate... If political parties claim to not have build the statue on Rural upliftment grounds, lets ask one simple question... Who were these 3000 workers? Were they some rich brats with millions of dollars in their bank account? Or were they superiorly uplifted in the society with a good and healthy living? They all belong to the same Rural class who has been fed, paid for themselves and their family. Taking into consideration for a minimum of 3 members in each workers family, this wont be erroneous to say that the Statue of Unity has been feeding at least 9000 people in the Rural area and taking care of their needs. No worker or any report has mentioned any low wage or torture claims by any of the workers and they live with pride for being a part of erecting this Colossal statue. Looking at a wider perspective, the largest statue in the world is now apprehensively going to attract a lot of tourists across the globe which will absolutely bring a major revenue which could be utilized to meet the expenses of the rural class people laying below poverty line. This would require a lot of maintenance, nearby clearances and the Rural people would constantly be deployed to work which would be a continual earning source for a bulk of Rural population in that area. We should rather be proud of having such a Statue in our country representing one of the most prominent leaders and freedom fighters of the country and i believe Colossals should be built for other prominent Freedom Fighters too in different states which could be a stimuli from the Western culture to remember and preserve the remembrance of our struggle and personnel leading to our Freedom. In the recent reports from NASA, we should rather be proud to have this statue visible from Space too rather than politicizing the whole matter which has always left an amateurish mark on our culture and political system.

Lets get one fact crystal clear. Sacrificing developments in a country to uplift the Rural population is not at all a legitimate idea or behavior. Upliftment of Rural society should always be one of the priorities but Development and globalization is the new fish in the trend.Without it, no country can ever move towards a prosperous culture or heritage. Like always, i have no interest in Politics or any other political party (before someone claims me to be a BJP/ Congress/AAP) supporter. I am always obsessed with my Motherland and something good happening here always exhilarates me to the bottom of my soul! Feeling for the rural development and supporting it is truly exemplary and everyone blaming the Statue of Unity should instead keep working themselves in Silence for the Rural development and feel the happiness from inside. Talking of funds, i dont think people speaking against the Statue of Unity lack funds in their party. Development and tourism in a country is the necessity to generate revenue, catalyze GDP and using that revenue for welfare of Rural people. Under a nutshell, the Statue of Unity is a great work and hats off to all 3000 workers, 250 engineers, Mr. Ram Sutar and L&T.

Kerala Floods- Could such extent be avoided?

Gods own country has always been the spotlight of the natural beauty and exquisite heritage that the country beholds at an universal juncture. Such massive calamity could not even gyrate as the worst nightmare over centuries. The Monsoon has really hit hard this time and God seemed to not have been merciful with its own country. Natural calamities can never be avoided nor can be paused or terminated but there adverse effects is something that could be filtered and sorted out to some real extent by enacting proper amendments and measures towards the fillers that get affected due to natural calamities.

Again the diaspora between the Government and humans have been questioned and it stands out to be a valid canvass that needs to be addressed! We have had the same opinions during Mumbai and Haryana floods and no proper drainage system being established to diminish the harsh effects of these natural calamities. Similar question evolves in this case too specially when the Gadgil committee of the Western Ghats has clearly presented a propaganda of warning Kerala of the major floods coming on its way. The US Embassy and UAE embassy in India has also issued warning reports in their propaganda for the Kerala floods but no response was being taken into consideration. The Jeopardy continued for some real time and post 3 days 35 dams in Kerala has been opened by when the casualties has been peak high already and the aftermath was in succession. I have no much reasons to blame Kerala for the Government's casual behaviour since Kerala is one of the most Literate and peaceful states in the country, but this time the casualty was severe with more than 375 people losing their lives and almost lacs losing their properties and homage. But this is something which could be considered as a wake up call and a warning for the entire country to take all reports of possible natural calamities too seriously. Couldn't the dams be opened post warnings from the Gadgil committee? Couldn't relocation process of citizens be planned accordingly prior to the havoc? Couldn't the warnings be delivered at a grander level to unfurl awareness on a larger scale and citizens could plan their steps? Couldn't suitable barrigates be built at the Ecologically Sensitive zones when the warnings were delivered? These warnings are meant to be seriously heard and enacted too and i find no reason of the Government to ignore these upcoming calamity. We have been at the age of Technology transformation and talking about AI and robotics and VR to be in place and Kerala being the most literate state should be ahead in these terms and should be making the most use of these technological innovation for ensuring safety of citizens and deceasing the harsh effects of natural calamity. We keep talking about science taking a leap, warning of professionals losing jobs due to AI, rigorous technological advancement with time but if we cant use the technological advancement and the latest tool to consider upcoming calamities seriously and save peoples life, where does these come in action then?

This should be an exemplar to all regulatory authorities to work on gathering information around upcoming natural calamities quite seriously and take decisive steps to avoid its harsh effects. When we talk about Artificial Intelligence, we should also look into the socio-economic factors too and the welfare of the citizens and try to inculcate the use of AI more on saving lives in every way possible. Wishing all Keralites a speedy recovery and hope enough strength is being mustered among the citizens to get over the massive tremor they have been into and hope the authorities will now wake up to a new day with new thoughts and renovations. 

"Being Judgemental" is not wrong, its crucial!

Post witnessing mass phenomenon worldwide specially in India, its a lofty hour to make ourselves open to judge and being judged. We often come across various manifestations where we are held culpable for judging people without knowing about their background and times they are going through! As a matter of fact, i would rather hardly find an earthling who would not be dwindling around a series of rough and tough phases and boldly fighting against those for a better survival.

Excuses are many for all the faulty acts that people do. A bunch go ahead to complain that their family was not supportive wherein some move an extra mile to say some visions they have seen which has revamped their lives to a complete turn. But to be blunt, these are just too lame to subtle it as an excuse to be faulty and commit faulty acts both unethically and illegally. Our prime mindset and nature completely revolves around the social circle we are into. In our daily lives we meet several people with different mindset and field of vision. its our core responsibility to filter people whose views and acts are not sensible enough to be justified. A recent research with the Telegraph and Oxfordshire research community has gone to prove that most rapists have been brainwashed against women of being physically weak which gives men the right to utilize them as a sex material! They have been imbibed a sort of anger into the brains of these people against women leading to gender discrimination and awful mentality. They have been, since their childhood has been constantly fed into their brains to not respect women and look down to their physicality. The same goes with the terrorists giving rise to mass murders in the name of religion and faith. No person is a born offender, but their social circle and people around them do fabricate a heinous environment which makes their senses shut towards the right path. We often see people having a negative thought over judging but people have now tend to ignore the fact that to analyse a human its crucial to know the person and have a perception about a person which will anyways lead to judging. Whats wrong in having a perception about a particular person? Why should we not have a perception to decide if a person is worthy to be in our circle and if the person could be a potential offender? Further more its also salient to remove negativity from life. I always believe in optimism, both in your hard and good times. There are people who would reluctantly take advantage of the hard times and make us feel even more negative. What fruitful would it be to have such people in our circle?

I understand people will say that most of them today have this nature and if we start judging people then it would be laborious to have a social circle. But on the other hand, we are a part of that community too. We can always have a trust on ourselves if we do the right act and get the right knowledge. For every 100 people we meet, there would be one guiding us to the right path and we should assimilate valuing that person and learn sincerely. Individualism is one big thing in life which every person should have and not alter that without judging others on their views and field of opinion! We should first learn and make a thumb rule in life to know whats correct and whats incorrect and then decide on the other persons nature and make a way out. Firstly i would say we should be our own biggest judge and judge our-self every time based on the correct and incorrect acts and logic. We should be always prepared to be judged and not take any step back to judge others. Not to get too much into the other person, but to realize if that person is worth being in our circle for a better living and positivism! Judge.... Judge....and Judge!!!!!!

Raid Review

With an ongoing plethora of the intense movies Ajay Devgan has been acting in, another cinema has hit the theatres on 16th March, 2018 which has again embarked and sparkled an intense thriller with the man himself and the alure acting by Illeana D'Cruz. This movie has set the locus to another height of success where the audience did not even think of repositing their focus for a second and stuck to their seats with popcorns and coldrinks going unnoticed.

Ajay Devgan starrer 'Raid' has again in the epitome genre of bravery documentaries has put forward a fantastic Raid organised by one of the bravest Income Tax officer Mr. Amay Patnaik, in the city of Nawabs, Lucknow. A fearless and stern officer without any consternation has just focussed on his duty and responsibility with all might has eventualised one of the biggest Raids in the country irrespective of multiple interventions from high officials trying to cease the raid, even from the then Prime Minister in 1981, Mrs. Indira Gandhi. The rest is something to be present at the hall and watched which commemorates a bulk of feelings, fear, calmness and a rejuvenating personality of Mr. Patnaik played by Ajay Devgan adds a lot of twist and tales in the cinematography. Dealing with a highly influential Minister being the major coordinator of the Central Government in a state like Lucknow and raiding his house was something which needs some goad. And Mr. Patnaik did this out of his honestly and dedication towards his duty and oath taken while starting his tenure as an officer.

Acting wise too every actor in the movie has subtled a good skillset and has given all their might and litigations to make the scene seem absolutely factual. A must watch movie for a life learning and to educate ourselves with one of the most honest officer with one of the biggest and most successful raid of 420cr from one of the most influential politician in that era. I would rate this movie 9/10.

The art of Parenting: A view from a 24 year old son!

"Parents are our best friend", a phrase that has been catalogue for generations and will be geared up withing the future generations too. There are expositions which culminates to deviation in a persons mind and the society manifest it as the fault of the child. But as a matter of fact it must also be incarnated into the mentality of the society that no earthling on this planet wills to get deviated. Be it the parenting.com or the Boston Magazine, every research has gone to prove that strict parents with a motive to keep the child under a cacaphona of fear and withdrawing their support has led to frustrations and major deviations.

The main motive behind writing this article is not gyrating around any anger, fear or revenge but its just a mere observation and an attempt to carve out a way to solve this mishap by converging both Children and Parents on the same platform. Also i would prefer to keep the language simple since its not regarding my English knowledge but an awareness needed for the society! We both have got severe responsibilities towards each other and have to abide by that. The real issue with the society is that they merge on to a judgement without investigating facts and knowing the reality along side losing their calm and patience. If we take a look at the history, Anger and Loss in patience has never led to any good! Goodwill, understanding and patience has always done. The beginning of the Roman empire was out of anger and greed which has led to killing of a brother by another to rule the empire and that genocide carried on for years and centuries until the Romans got together with understanding and love to create the great Colosseum and thus moving ahead with Rennaisance. Just like Parents cant live without their children, Children cant also live without their parents. Blood relation is genetic and nothing artificial can be done and the Hormones and Peptides function in the same manner which cant be strangled in any other way. But alongside, we should also know and understand that phases of life and with every growing age there are innumerable series of incidents that trespasses their lives and the comfort zone of the person should also be taken care of. If a person dither to open up about something to their parents, its very much crucial for the parents to understand and recognise that fact that it doesnt signify their moving away from family and parents. There might be things he likes to keep within himslef for the time being and later on would prelude it openly to their parents. Its all about the Dynamics that is being created between Father Mother and the child and if you make him equally comfortable to to open up about everything to you with an assurance that you would support him in all aspects no matter how much in-depth it is, Children dont need to keep anything inside themselves and can easily put pedal to metal and expess everything they are passing through. Yes this fact is also not denied that after every support there are children who gets deviated and there is always an odd one in every crowd. But in todays world, Children love their parents way too much and can fight against the world to protect their family goodwill and save their reputation. Yes we lie. Infact we all have lied to our parents many a times. But the question rises again, 'why do people lie to their parents?'. If they are assured of all support and help from their parents and also get along with the likings and choices (of course not the bad ones), then why should children lie? Yes children do make mistakes out of unkwoing matters and illicited thoughts in their mind and more important is to come out of it. Once the child comes out of it, Parents should concievably support them and learn to trust them until they get a hard proof of their children deviating into the wrong track. And also to be heavily noted, lying about something never signifies deviating. Doing something unethical and illegal is something where it can be conferred that a person is actually deviating. Its also crucial for parents to investigate facts, know the reality and then comment of their childrens deviation since blaming them without any of their real fault leads to a mental trauma which children find it really difficult to come out at times.

Its just not about the youth that i am speaking off. But Parenting as a subject is vast and it should be dealt with until our last breath. Its not about the problems being faced by a single age group but it envelopes a wide range of factors across all age groups even agter marriage and having Kids. Every age group does deserve an affection from their parents. Every children love their parents and love them more than their own lives. Todays generation are ready to hecatomb their existence but protect their parents and family against all odds. Parents should also have the retina to look into this and know the reality before passing any judgement. Even the court believes that letting go 10 offenders is better than punishing one innocent lad. Along side its very crucial to understand the cerebrum and hormanal functioning when parents blame their children for no reason. Phases of life should be understood and learnt well because those are not encrypted or coded by an engineer but are biologically stranded in the DNA of every person and these phases will amend human behaviour. Until its illegal or unethical, parents should abide and understand. Once again to repeat, every research has found that strict parents creates a frustated person and science has never been wrong, no matter what!