"Parents are our best friend", a phrase that has been catalogue for generations and will be geared up withing the future generations too. There are expositions which culminates to deviation in a persons mind and the society manifest it as the fault of the child. But as a matter of fact it must also be incarnated into the mentality of the society that no earthling on this planet wills to get deviated. Be it the parenting.com or the Boston Magazine, every research has gone to prove that strict parents with a motive to keep the child under a cacaphona of fear and withdrawing their support has led to frustrations and major deviations.
The main motive behind writing this article is not gyrating around any anger, fear or revenge but its just a mere observation and an attempt to carve out a way to solve this mishap by converging both Children and Parents on the same platform. Also i would prefer to keep the language simple since its not regarding my English knowledge but an awareness needed for the society! We both have got severe responsibilities towards each other and have to abide by that. The real issue with the society is that they merge on to a judgement without investigating facts and knowing the reality along side losing their calm and patience. If we take a look at the history, Anger and Loss in patience has never led to any good! Goodwill, understanding and patience has always done. The beginning of the Roman empire was out of anger and greed which has led to killing of a brother by another to rule the empire and that genocide carried on for years and centuries until the Romans got together with understanding and love to create the great Colosseum and thus moving ahead with Rennaisance. Just like Parents cant live without their children, Children cant also live without their parents. Blood relation is genetic and nothing artificial can be done and the Hormones and Peptides function in the same manner which cant be strangled in any other way. But alongside, we should also know and understand that phases of life and with every growing age there are innumerable series of incidents that trespasses their lives and the comfort zone of the person should also be taken care of. If a person dither to open up about something to their parents, its very much crucial for the parents to understand and recognise that fact that it doesnt signify their moving away from family and parents. There might be things he likes to keep within himslef for the time being and later on would prelude it openly to their parents. Its all about the Dynamics that is being created between Father Mother and the child and if you make him equally comfortable to to open up about everything to you with an assurance that you would support him in all aspects no matter how much in-depth it is, Children dont need to keep anything inside themselves and can easily put pedal to metal and expess everything they are passing through. Yes this fact is also not denied that after every support there are children who gets deviated and there is always an odd one in every crowd. But in todays world, Children love their parents way too much and can fight against the world to protect their family goodwill and save their reputation. Yes we lie. Infact we all have lied to our parents many a times. But the question rises again, 'why do people lie to their parents?'. If they are assured of all support and help from their parents and also get along with the likings and choices (of course not the bad ones), then why should children lie? Yes children do make mistakes out of unkwoing matters and illicited thoughts in their mind and more important is to come out of it. Once the child comes out of it, Parents should concievably support them and learn to trust them until they get a hard proof of their children deviating into the wrong track. And also to be heavily noted, lying about something never signifies deviating. Doing something unethical and illegal is something where it can be conferred that a person is actually deviating. Its also crucial for parents to investigate facts, know the reality and then comment of their childrens deviation since blaming them without any of their real fault leads to a mental trauma which children find it really difficult to come out at times.
Its just not about the youth that i am speaking off. But Parenting as a subject is vast and it should be dealt with until our last breath. Its not about the problems being faced by a single age group but it envelopes a wide range of factors across all age groups even agter marriage and having Kids. Every age group does deserve an affection from their parents. Every children love their parents and love them more than their own lives. Todays generation are ready to hecatomb their existence but protect their parents and family against all odds. Parents should also have the retina to look into this and know the reality before passing any judgement. Even the court believes that letting go 10 offenders is better than punishing one innocent lad. Along side its very crucial to understand the cerebrum and hormanal functioning when parents blame their children for no reason. Phases of life should be understood and learnt well because those are not encrypted or coded by an engineer but are biologically stranded in the DNA of every person and these phases will amend human behaviour. Until its illegal or unethical, parents should abide and understand. Once again to repeat, every research has found that strict parents creates a frustated person and science has never been wrong, no matter what!
The main motive behind writing this article is not gyrating around any anger, fear or revenge but its just a mere observation and an attempt to carve out a way to solve this mishap by converging both Children and Parents on the same platform. Also i would prefer to keep the language simple since its not regarding my English knowledge but an awareness needed for the society! We both have got severe responsibilities towards each other and have to abide by that. The real issue with the society is that they merge on to a judgement without investigating facts and knowing the reality along side losing their calm and patience. If we take a look at the history, Anger and Loss in patience has never led to any good! Goodwill, understanding and patience has always done. The beginning of the Roman empire was out of anger and greed which has led to killing of a brother by another to rule the empire and that genocide carried on for years and centuries until the Romans got together with understanding and love to create the great Colosseum and thus moving ahead with Rennaisance. Just like Parents cant live without their children, Children cant also live without their parents. Blood relation is genetic and nothing artificial can be done and the Hormones and Peptides function in the same manner which cant be strangled in any other way. But alongside, we should also know and understand that phases of life and with every growing age there are innumerable series of incidents that trespasses their lives and the comfort zone of the person should also be taken care of. If a person dither to open up about something to their parents, its very much crucial for the parents to understand and recognise that fact that it doesnt signify their moving away from family and parents. There might be things he likes to keep within himslef for the time being and later on would prelude it openly to their parents. Its all about the Dynamics that is being created between Father Mother and the child and if you make him equally comfortable to to open up about everything to you with an assurance that you would support him in all aspects no matter how much in-depth it is, Children dont need to keep anything inside themselves and can easily put pedal to metal and expess everything they are passing through. Yes this fact is also not denied that after every support there are children who gets deviated and there is always an odd one in every crowd. But in todays world, Children love their parents way too much and can fight against the world to protect their family goodwill and save their reputation. Yes we lie. Infact we all have lied to our parents many a times. But the question rises again, 'why do people lie to their parents?'. If they are assured of all support and help from their parents and also get along with the likings and choices (of course not the bad ones), then why should children lie? Yes children do make mistakes out of unkwoing matters and illicited thoughts in their mind and more important is to come out of it. Once the child comes out of it, Parents should concievably support them and learn to trust them until they get a hard proof of their children deviating into the wrong track. And also to be heavily noted, lying about something never signifies deviating. Doing something unethical and illegal is something where it can be conferred that a person is actually deviating. Its also crucial for parents to investigate facts, know the reality and then comment of their childrens deviation since blaming them without any of their real fault leads to a mental trauma which children find it really difficult to come out at times.
Its just not about the youth that i am speaking off. But Parenting as a subject is vast and it should be dealt with until our last breath. Its not about the problems being faced by a single age group but it envelopes a wide range of factors across all age groups even agter marriage and having Kids. Every age group does deserve an affection from their parents. Every children love their parents and love them more than their own lives. Todays generation are ready to hecatomb their existence but protect their parents and family against all odds. Parents should also have the retina to look into this and know the reality before passing any judgement. Even the court believes that letting go 10 offenders is better than punishing one innocent lad. Along side its very crucial to understand the cerebrum and hormanal functioning when parents blame their children for no reason. Phases of life should be understood and learnt well because those are not encrypted or coded by an engineer but are biologically stranded in the DNA of every person and these phases will amend human behaviour. Until its illegal or unethical, parents should abide and understand. Once again to repeat, every research has found that strict parents creates a frustated person and science has never been wrong, no matter what!
No one is ever quite ready; everyone is always caught off guard. Parenthood chooses you. And you open your eyes, look at what you’ve got, say “Oh, my gosh,” and recognize that of all the balls there ever were, this is the one you should not drop. It’s not a question of choice.
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