The art of Parenting: A view from a 24 year old son!

"Parents are our best friend", a phrase that has been catalogue for generations and will be geared up withing the future generations too. There are expositions which culminates to deviation in a persons mind and the society manifest it as the fault of the child. But as a matter of fact it must also be incarnated into the mentality of the society that no earthling on this planet wills to get deviated. Be it the parenting.com or the Boston Magazine, every research has gone to prove that strict parents with a motive to keep the child under a cacaphona of fear and withdrawing their support has led to frustrations and major deviations.

The main motive behind writing this article is not gyrating around any anger, fear or revenge but its just a mere observation and an attempt to carve out a way to solve this mishap by converging both Children and Parents on the same platform. Also i would prefer to keep the language simple since its not regarding my English knowledge but an awareness needed for the society! We both have got severe responsibilities towards each other and have to abide by that. The real issue with the society is that they merge on to a judgement without investigating facts and knowing the reality along side losing their calm and patience. If we take a look at the history, Anger and Loss in patience has never led to any good! Goodwill, understanding and patience has always done. The beginning of the Roman empire was out of anger and greed which has led to killing of a brother by another to rule the empire and that genocide carried on for years and centuries until the Romans got together with understanding and love to create the great Colosseum and thus moving ahead with Rennaisance. Just like Parents cant live without their children, Children cant also live without their parents. Blood relation is genetic and nothing artificial can be done and the Hormones and Peptides function in the same manner which cant be strangled in any other way. But alongside, we should also know and understand that phases of life and with every growing age there are innumerable series of incidents that trespasses their lives and the comfort zone of the person should also be taken care of. If a person dither to open up about something to their parents, its very much crucial for the parents to understand and recognise that fact that it doesnt signify their moving away from family and parents. There might be things he likes to keep within himslef for the time being and later on would prelude it openly to their parents. Its all about the Dynamics that is being created between Father Mother and the child and if you make him equally comfortable to to open up about everything to you with an assurance that you would support him in all aspects no matter how much in-depth it is, Children dont need to keep anything inside themselves and can easily put pedal to metal and expess everything they are passing through. Yes this fact is also not denied that after every support there are children who gets deviated and there is always an odd one in every crowd. But in todays world, Children love their parents way too much and can fight against the world to protect their family goodwill and save their reputation. Yes we lie. Infact we all have lied to our parents many a times. But the question rises again, 'why do people lie to their parents?'. If they are assured of all support and help from their parents and also get along with the likings and choices (of course not the bad ones), then why should children lie? Yes children do make mistakes out of unkwoing matters and illicited thoughts in their mind and more important is to come out of it. Once the child comes out of it, Parents should concievably support them and learn to trust them until they get a hard proof of their children deviating into the wrong track. And also to be heavily noted, lying about something never signifies deviating. Doing something unethical and illegal is something where it can be conferred that a person is actually deviating. Its also crucial for parents to investigate facts, know the reality and then comment of their childrens deviation since blaming them without any of their real fault leads to a mental trauma which children find it really difficult to come out at times.

Its just not about the youth that i am speaking off. But Parenting as a subject is vast and it should be dealt with until our last breath. Its not about the problems being faced by a single age group but it envelopes a wide range of factors across all age groups even agter marriage and having Kids. Every age group does deserve an affection from their parents. Every children love their parents and love them more than their own lives. Todays generation are ready to hecatomb their existence but protect their parents and family against all odds. Parents should also have the retina to look into this and know the reality before passing any judgement. Even the court believes that letting go 10 offenders is better than punishing one innocent lad. Along side its very crucial to understand the cerebrum and hormanal functioning when parents blame their children for no reason. Phases of life should be understood and learnt well because those are not encrypted or coded by an engineer but are biologically stranded in the DNA of every person and these phases will amend human behaviour. Until its illegal or unethical, parents should abide and understand. Once again to repeat, every research has found that strict parents creates a frustated person and science has never been wrong, no matter what! 

Maharashtra and Haryana Tax collection: Not enough to create a proper drainage system

Post the tremendous amount of rainfall in States like Maharashtra and Chandigarh amidst tonnes of condolences and invocations, glides away a thought of the transpiration. How did the balls stipulated in clusters? With an aggregation of almost Rs. 1 Lakh Crore as the tax payed by the tax payers in the form of CEST, GST, VAT, Vehicle Tax, Roadways tax, the elementary question which rises is if the tax collected every year is too less to construct efficient drainage systems all across the state? With every year progressing, the situation still remains identical and who is going to be held responsible for this matter? Or its always a pre-destined phenomenon of playing passing the buck game with commoners unrelentingly suffering and dying through the massacre every passing year!

Also the recent focus has been converged into the Tax Payers money to be disbursed into corruption activities and other immoral doings in this country in the name of Social Welfare and experts well attested to explain us the difference between Party and Public funds. Its truly shocking to witness how even human lives are politicized at their cost and hard earned income out of which they pay to the Government and the absolute aftermath of which is ending up suffering and losing their lives. Its was even more disheartening to see when Congress allegedly paid the Tax Payers money to scammers like Augusta Handel and the Italian Underworld. Crores of money are being invested into unscrupulous on goings and the so called experts just claim that to be a Party fund expenditure. Our largest Municipal corporation, BMC is actually to busy fighting cases against people who speaks averse them and prove illegal housing wherein they are least concerned to actually get the potholes repaired and the drainage system embellished. There is always a political turmoil in the country and every party renders itself as the only party thinking about the country's welfare. At every stroke of the midnight these political turmoil gets amateurish and the commoners are the ones who suffer wherein this simple logic is concealed among them that if the commoners dont get the benefits, either they die or leave the country. We are the ones bringing revenue to the country through innumerable opportunities and present that to the world. We make the country the best investment option for bigger markets in lieu of Man Power, Raw materials and costing. We are proceeding towards being the Golden Bird but woefully the cat fights dont end and we are today getting drowned and water inserting into our homes and we are helpless. The Maharashtra floods in 2005 which was one if the worst incidents in the history of this country along with Godhra and Bhopal Gas Tragedy, its absolutely abhorrent to see that no developments has yet been done and every year 35 lives at an average are lost due to rains and floods. The ministry always forecasts the plan for Bullet trains and Hyperbholes which are essential initiatives for the growth and development of this nation but how come at the cost of human lives lost due to poor drainage? There is always a sheer lack of aggression and a go getter attitude which should be the situation under these circumstances. When we open up a debate show, there is a sheer blame game being played to recieve vote banks and every natural calamity being politicized instead of taking up measure to eradicate horrendous outcomes.

Last but not the least, few question that yet has no answers. When will the Vote Bank politics be sacrificed for human protection? When will human lives prioritise party well beings? When will taking an agressive step be more important than blame games? When will parties start taking accountability? These questions have always been unanswered and unheard by the deeming politicians who should take responsibility for these massacre. A mere realization of the fact that People for Party and Party for people and proper implementation of this motto is as crucial as living for yourself and turning this country as the 'Golden Bird'. We have all yet we have nothing!

Post Paris Climate Deal, its time to have a Delhi Climate Deal

The universe has been fighting over the Paris Climate Deal which has raised a serious concern of the Temparature rise uptill 2 degrees all across the globe by 2050. Withdrawal of US from the Paris Climate Deal has grieved across a wave of hatred against the duck who has time and again corroborated his being a farce in the history of mankind. There are 2 more cities which needs a lofty focus on the Climatic conditions which always gapers a massive change every time and each time bystanding a harsh fettle, Beijing and Delhi.

Last week i had a short trip to my hometown and on my way back we were notified by the flight attendant that the visibilibity for the slight from an altitude to the runway is only 6 kilometers. As the craft was descending to land to the runway of Delhi airport, i could visualise an encrust of dust particles in the toposphere which was making it highly onerious to have a clear view of the city and the runway. The pilots were encountering major hurdles in smoothening the glide of the aircraft which was being battered by the dust particles and the polluted air and finally there was a visibility around 6 km and the flight landed safely. This synchronised several affairs in my mind realising the exacerbation of the Climate that we as citizens are solely responsible. We actually fail to realise that our Motherland is our responsibilty and we will reap finally what we sow! Its of utmost importance for all to devote some of our treasured time and work on few artefacts which can lead to a better climatic conditions.

1) Cleaning the household chimneys and factories- Its a pivotal part of our job to clean the chimneys of our kitchen once in every 2 days since the accumulation of harmful particles in our chimneys gets fastened into the shelfs and they emit harmful substances into the atmosphere leading to high level pollution and Global warning. The same methodology should be applied for factories too which has high level production units while manufacturing Bricks, tiles, cement, marbles and other products. This will dwindle the pollution level into the atmosphere and will eradicate a lot of it certainly!

2) Regular servicing of car and the silencers to be checked- Delhi NCR has the maximum number of four wheelers as compared to any part of the nation. Delhi NVR four wheelers amounts to more than the total number of four wheelers in Mumbai, Hyderabad, Kolkata summed up togther! So the owners of the four wheelers, be it of Private vehicles or commercial vehicles should clutch the responsibility of getting their four wheelers serviced at frequent intervals and also paramount to the checking of the car silencers. There has been talks and discussions around legal affidavits across car silencers emitiing carbon monoxide and other harmful gases into the atmosphere due to lack of servicing and callous maintenance and this is crucial hereforth to get the legal documentation for car maintenence.

3) Smoking booths to be introduced- In European countries like Italy, Spain they have introduced smoking booths at the corner of every streets in order to reduce public smoking and also taking care of the needs of smokers. Identical cases should be allocated in India too, in order to emit the smoke into the atmosphere leading to pollution and Global warming. On a daily basis, we rendevouz enough smokers smokin on road sides and streets and pavements and the smoke emitted pollutes the environment also leading to passive smoking for non- smokers.

4) Technology rendering artificial rain- Climatic conditions all across tyhe globe todays calls for technologies rendering artificial rains on bi-weekly or monthly basis in cities like Delhi and Beijing, The use of water to eradicate Global warming and pollution catches utmost priority and should be mizzled across the cities by the Municipal corporations to reduce the level of atrocities leading to hazardous heath effects!

There has been endless discussions, debates and arguements on this fact leading to null! Its high time to start the movement and fortify this with all our might to our welfare and the nations and natures welfare! Increase in 2 degrees of temparature in the next 20 years will drastically refrain the growth of wheat, flour and the major ingredients which we need to make a survival on this plaet. Time to start a movement and revolutionise the climate with unity! 

Arnab's Republic: Breaking the ice, revolutionazing the Media Genre!

A break of Six months from the real face of the Media was chronic and parallely obnoxious. At a fleck it was pretty much diagnosed that the Media will be back with its monotony and rationale reporting with no Slant by themselves. Sooner that we discerned the vibes of the Media monotony that we were conferred by Mr Arnab Goswami that he was on the verge of launching his very own media house by the name 'Republic TV' and there was an aroma of the statuette of the Revolutionized Media making a major come back! The vigilant aura and the Dynamic reporting was soon going to be back with a huge bash and crash all TRPs with earthlings of all age group not willing to handover the remote for daily soaps and other entertainments.

Arnab Goswami has always been a role model (At least should be) for all Journalists who should idealise him for his assault against injustice and havocs on the grounds of his own country and his lustrous hecatomb nature for his Motherland. Till the time he was not in the Journalism picture, there was a typical stereotyping of Journalism which only perturbed to reporting news and moderating debates. We have always heard some vogus panel members heating up the chairs in the newsroom expounding shits and the Moderator just stayed quite ambiguously moderating the debates. For people who think that Journalists are only meant to moderate and report and not express their views, let me advise you to domicile in the modern idiosyncrasy. We live in the largest democracy in the world with every earthling that dwells having his/her right to express opinions and speaking up. Be it of any profession and Journalists are the one who should prominently express their views and cease the Panel members from vomiting out their horrifying views and statements percolating into their rogue and vantage outlook and creeping into their Orthodox nature romancing well with them! No one in this country has their tongue locked for not being able to speak up. No code has been particularly set up for journalists to abide their job only till moderating debates and reporting news. Even if there is a code set up someday, the Journalists should be given the most freewill to speak up and express their opinions. Its utmost crucial to realise that Media plays a strong role in democracy and Journalists should be the role model for all! The basis of journalism as the fourth estate and a watchdog for corruption and injustice brings an unequivocal responsibility for journalists to be equally skilled and hard-working as they are virtuous and ethical.

In the past too we have seen foreign journalists who has always been fearless in terms of placing opinions and reporting news and they are set up the standards for Journalism which a lot of people lack and fail to intercept. To name few of the idols, we could idealise Robert Fisk, Kate Adie and many more who has portrayed the veritable countenance of Journalism. They has always been stern, motive oriented and always ensured to fight for the true cause and against all evil. Being a true believer of RTI, I do honour Arnab Goswami as the best Journalist in this country and a treat to worldwide journalism. I believe there lies nil reason for anyone who loves their country to not support Arnab in his work and the new venture Republic TV which is already creating the buzz by its mettlesome news reporting targeting the lads from the ministry and exposing their malicious deeds with Lucid proof materials justifying every bit of it. There has been a new breeze of Journalism soothing our mind and justifying their cause in the best way possible. Let’s sail with it and stand with the fearless and unbiased person sacrificing every bit of his life to make the Nation know and get acquainted with the reality!